Dating a super busy man
Then nothing until LATE last night, he sent a weird message about how he’s been so busy and “did you have a fantastic day? But not talking to me at all for 3 days and then quizzing me instead of having a heart-felt conversation (like we’ve had numerous times up until now) doesn’t cut it. It’s so hard when dating seems to be going well and then BOOM, it fizzles out. Of course this is certainly not uncommon – pretty much standard dating nonsense. That’s another reason why a guy might scamper off and become too busy.I’m sure Valentine’s Day is playing a part in freaking him out. They do get scared about commitment and getting caught up in something.I had no prospects when I started dating at 40, but found 30 guys to date in just 15 months. You are learning about yourself – what works and what doesn’t and how to react to keep yourself open to meeting more men.That’s the biggest secret of successful dating – don’t stop until you find the right one.Do you think he should see more of me by now if he really likes me?I know this contradicts what your friends and family have advised but you haven’t known him very long.Don’t play games about meeting up but don’t drop everything when he is free if you have something pre-arranged. Is it because of unrealistic expectations or romanticised ideas about relationships and the belief that if someone likes you they must be with you as much as possible? I might guess ‘yes’ given how your family seem to view a very normal early dating situation as evidence of him not being adequately committed to you.Where might those ideas have come from and are you able to resist or question them – seeing them as being unhelpful in your life now? Are you someone who is prone to anxiety or unable to relax and enjoy what you currently have?
The idea is to realize that dating is not the same as being in a relationship.
Sometimes he says he can’t see me as he’s with his mates.
My parents think I should pick someone who can be more committed to me and my friends say similar.
I lived through this myself and it was tough no doubt.
But I came up with a way to handle the disappointment and actually guard against it.